There is a chapter in the Art of Extreme Self Care called, “Take Your Hands Off the Wheel”. As you might imagine it’s about letting go of control, asking for help and being willing to receive help when it’s offered. Of course sharing the load makes sense, but many of us resist.
Do any of these thoughts sound familiar? It takes too much time and energy to explain what I need. It’s faster and easier to do it myself. It’s disappointing when people don’t follow through. I need to make sure it’s done right. I take pride in being self-sufficient. I don’t want to seem weak or feel indebted to anyone.
While this may be a well worn path, it is not the path of self care. If you notice yourself complaining about how much you have to do, losing your temper over small things, or feeling so exhausted that even the tiniest task seems like too much work; then it’s time to make a change.
These signals are telling you that support is overdue, and listening to them is an act of strength. As Hermann Hesse said, “Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it’s letting go”. Breathe…Go to someone you trust, ask for help, and then receive what is given.
Living a life that reflects your values, deepest desires and passions means taking your hands off the wheel and letting go of control. It means speaking up instead of swallowing your feelings. And it definitely means creating an extreme self-care first-aid kit so you can nurture yourself through any life challenge!
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